5. Get all the Benefits of Giving Up Drinking Alcohol

It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.― Edmund Hillary

After the initial month during which I wasn’t totally convinced if I was going to succeed in giving up drinking alcohol, I’d started to notice how much healthier I felt. I noticed that I’d started losing weight was down from 82kg to about 78.5g without really doing anything other than cutting alcohol out of my diet and going to a weekly salsa class.

Losing weight without trying

In the first month I lost 3-4kg. Now this was a bonus and one I hadn’t expected, so was yet another positive to add to my increasing list of positive reasons for giving up drink.

The weight kept dropping off until I reached a point where I’d lost 7kg by just stopping drinking. I felt the fittest in years, I hadn’t needed a weight loss plan, and I didn’t even anticipate that I would lose weight.

More health benefits

Other health benefits started to become more obvious. First off my skin started to feel fresher and more alive, was certainly pinker and healthier looking. I suffered from teenage acne and for the last 15 years had always suffered a bit of dry skin and eczema. Within 2 months of stopping my eczema had shrunk completely, so I was left with a tiny bit on my hands and leg, instead of all over my lower legs and wrists.

This natural detox and cleansing of my system was amazing. I felt as if a blanket had been lifted off of me. I felt I could do anything. With the salsa classes I’d gained loads of confidence and was now starting to believe that more or less anything was possible. What I didn’t fully appreciate were the significant health benefits when giving up drink.

The following are all reduced when you give up drinking for just one month:

  • Cholesterol
  • Liver fat
  • Weight
  • Glucose

Source: http://www.healthline.com/health/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-a-month#2

I went to the doctor and got my cholesterol levels checked out. Great, they were low (3 mmol/L). Unfortunately I had never checked them before, when I used to drink, so I can’t say for definite what the change was. But I’ve since read that giving up drink can drastically lower your cholesterol levels.

Better sleep, more energy levels

I’ve always been reasonably good at getting up in the morning. I enjoy going to bed late, but I like to get up early, the afternoons are something else. That is siesta time. Without the drink though, there were no hangovers, no days wasted lying in bed trying to shift a hangover. Those days were behind me, long gone. Now I hop out of bed at 6 on a week day and much the same on the weekend. My body is used to it now. Energy levels are so much higher – if I could bottle it and sell it, I’d be a millionaire. Although in my life now I feel I have made it already. Not financially, but in terms of the quality of my life.

Learning from this experience has taught me one thing: to believe in myself. I knew in my heart that I could do it, but making that jump and actually doing it, is the thing that I thought I could never do.

New family life keeps me busy

Now I have a wife and child and we’re in a fabulous relationship that just couldn’t have existed before. I was the most argumentative person in the world with just a couple of beers inside me. I was unreasonable and hard to live with, to say the least.

I sometimes wonder what I could have done had I given up alcohol earlier. I had a lot of adventures and life would have turned out differently. Who knows? I wake at night and sometimes smile, because I managed to break a habit and everything has turned out so much for the better.

I couldn’t be happier

My 5 steps were more like 5 phases of my life as I went through the process of detox and stopping drinking. For me they worked, they helped me to think about the process, why I was doing it and what did I hope to achieve at the end of it.

The process of writing up about it after all these  years later I find myself happier than ever that I went through the process and weaned myself off alcohol. For me now, life is so much fuller more fun and happier without alcohol. I’m glad I was able to break free.

I was lucky that I wasn’t more reliant on alcohol. Some people are and they experience withdrawal symptoms when coming off alcohol. It’s important that you talk to your doctor if you’re in this position.

My diary still helps me

I still keep my diary and sometimes take time to read through notes I made years ago. The notes I made then help put things into perspective. I could see at times I really struggled to break the habit and on occasions I was close to relapsing, though I never did. Something I’m really proud of and something that continues to push me into the future knowing that I won’t need alcohol to get me where I’m heading to.

My blog is here to help you too

I really hope that if you’ve found my blog about giving up drinking useful and inspiring! If you’re in a similar position then I hope you gain something positive from my own experience. If you do and you’d like to write a comment then please do, your positive comments will add a richness that others will benefit from too.

Thank you for reading this today – please add your comment to the growing list, so that others can benefit from your experiences too! I recommend this book, ‘Feel the Fear and do it Anyway, by Susan Jeffers’, as it has helped to further develop my inspiration to succeed.
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Don’t forget, it’s never too late to make a start on the next chapter of your life.

Quick jump to the other steps:

  1. Overcome Denial
  2. Getting Support
  3. Rewarding Yourself
  4. Change Your Life
  5. Reap The Benefits

…and these are the book references that have helped me write this blog:

  1. Awaken the Giant Within, Tony Robbins – Buy on Amazon US/GB
  2. Mindset: How You Can Fulfil Your Potential, Carol Dweck – Buy on Amazon US/GB
  3. Feel The Fear, Susan Jeffers – Buy on Amazon US/GB
  4. Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl – Buy on Amazon US/GB
  5. S.U.M.O (Shut Up, Move On), Paul McGee – Buy on Amazon US/GB

860 thoughts on “5. Get all the Benefits of Giving Up Drinking Alcohol”

  1. Morning everyone. Today is day 92 in the Keith household. I know that there will always be an issue for me when it comes to alcohol and sobriety but I do think its getting easier. My friends are all having their Xmas nights out and posting on Facebook about horrific hangovers. After a season night out my hangover would last for 2-3 days sometimes. This amuses me and the thought of never making yourself feel that way again is a distinct motivation.

    I’ll hit the one hundred mark just before Xmas which will help to make sure that I stay sober. I seriously wouldn’t want to go from here to day one again. I have the food and booze in for family and guests but its a fractition of what would have been bought before.

    I was also right about this being noticed by my family. The kids have noticed I’m more fun, more energetic and more tolerant at the weekends. After a sober birthday my wife was so impressed she got me an iPad partly for fun, partly to start documenting a journal. The beer money will pay for the network contract as she put it. It does also mean if I drink again she’ll sell it!!!!!!!!!

    I hope that you’re all winning your battles and still reaping the benefits. A difficult time is coming up. I would have drank for two weeks solid over the festive period before.

    Stay Strong,

    Keith

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    1. Same here Keith with the holiday season. Its going to be tough for me but since week one I found keeping
      busy with kids and wife is helping me stay sober. Plus on top of holiday we have the bowl games.So keep busy and stay strong.

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    2. Hi, new to this, it’s taken an hour for me to workout how to leave a comment!!! This is day 8 (the longest I’ve gone without a drink in 28 years). I am very scared and tearful tonight – was kind of on a high from the achievement for the first 4 or 5 days. Any ideas to get me through the next week would be really appreciated. This is the first blog thing I’ve ever wanted to join – no nasty shouty comments anywhere.

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      1. Lisa this site is full of very supportive people. It is scary, but you need to keep telling yourself you can do this. 8 days is a massive achievement as the first 7 days are tough. Try and come up with something that will distract you if the urge to drink appears. Your nerves may be bit raw and you may find little things and people will irritate you. It’s important to be kind to yourself and selfish. Eat what you want and socialise with those that are supportive and good to around, if your feel like switching off then do just that. Finding a hobby or getting involved in an activity you enjoy also will help. You will experience a lot of different emotions and feeling. Sleep may be a bit erratic or not. Keep going on your journey as it is different every week, you will really see for yourself the physical benefits the longer you abstain.

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      2. Hi Lisa. I guess that you must have come across sites with nasty comments. This astounds me as thankfully I stumbled across this one and just liked the vibe so stayed. Can’t understand why it would be otherwise considering we are all on or considering being on a similar journey and it makes perfect sense to share experience and learn and support one another which is what I think James’s site is all about.

        Jo Jo is right. Look out for yourself first and foremost. The first week is really hard and takes a monumental effort but the reward comes rapidly afterwards. There are many challenges as time progresses but in my opinion none more difficult than those initial steps taken into scary waters. So well done on 8 days. It’s a massive achievement.

        K

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      3. Hi Lisa, And welcome to my site. Thanks for leaving your comment. Luckily for you we’ve all been there at the beginning of the journey of giving up drink, even after years of drinking like you. It is hard but well worth it, so stick to it. Hopefully you’ll get lots of inspiration from the stories here – they continue to inspire me to keep abstaining.

        Keep in touch and let us know how you get on.

        James

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  2. Well I made it day 5 and its the weekend. So far feeling good and got some sleep last night. I believe going to make it first week , let everyone know on Monday how the remaining weekend goes!

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    1. Do you mean you’re not going to go alcohol-free again and you can’t wait to drink again on 1st Jan? Or do you mean you never want to go through the ‘quitting’ phase and want a year under your belt and will never drink again? 🙂

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  3. I have been drinking heavy for over 20 years, and I am on day 2 of giving up the beer.My birthday is in two weeks and will be 37. This will be the first sober birthday in many years. Alcohol is starting to take control of my body and just sick of dealing with it. If I can make it two weeks without a beer that would be huge for me.

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  4. I can directly relate to your story. I only hope that I can find the strength to successfully stop drinking like yourself. I stumbled upon your blog by simply googling “I drink too much and never feel like doing anything.” Your story is surely an inspiration, st the age of 33, 3 kids, and a wife, it’s time I make a change.

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  5. Hi everyone! Still love this place. I was doing really well with staying sober until I got an email a few days ago. One of my husband’s former graduate students said she slept with him for months (he says 3 weeks) and got pregnant by him and had an abortion. Not only that, but I found out from him that she tried really hard to get him fired, and some of our mutual friends knew about this whole thing for years. He does NOT seem like the kind to cheat, and I have been happily married for 14 years. I was so shocked. If I had been sober a year, I would not have drank. But I had no resources to deal with this. My internet went out for 4 days, believe it or not! Plus, we are going to Santa Fe to see my mom, who has recently been diagnosed with early dementia. So I still want to quit drinking and do believe I will. I just don’t know what else to do and plan to drink until after Christmas: two weeks with my mom, husband, and stepson. I have the emotional maturity of a 12-year-old because I started drinking so young. I’m sorry if I let people down; I was not kidding that I was very serious about quitting. But this is just too much at 3 weeks of sobriety. I cannot deal. I will be back after Christmas and good luck to all of you! Christmas will be so much better sober! Stay happy and healthy.

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    1. Rachel, you have not let anyone down, stuff happens. I am on day 71 but I had many many half attempts. This time round was right for me that is why it is working. The last three years were a blurr due to being the primary carer for my father who had advanced dementia. I loved my father very much and I don’t love easily. Dad passed away very peacefully in August this year, it was time and it was a beautiful death, he did not suffer, the body just went through it’s natural shut-down until the final last breath. My mother passed away very suddenly in 2009, that was a shock and I was the one who had to deal with the news and advise the rest of the family. I felt it was my role in life to make sure my father received the best care, and he did. Your time to give up will come, you know now from your recent experience it is not easy, but you do have what it takes to quit. Sorry to hear about your Mum, it’s a horrible horrible disease, it’s very tough on those that are close. Take care.

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    2. Jo Jo is right, you’ll find a time to give up, but at least you’ve tasted sobriety and what it can mean for you in your future. Good luck overcoming these challenges and keep in touch.

      JB

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  6. Just found this sight… have been “attempting” to quit drinking for 19 years… I’m 44… longest period of sobriety was 7 months in those 19 years. Thought I had reached a new stage (and I suppose that’s always true) but only have since last night without a drink. I’m a binge drinker… go 2 or 4 weeks without.. then 3 months, 5 months…just never seem to let it go. And when I drink again it’s incredibly ugly what condition I get into. Home drinker and hide out in my room (my husband hasn’t wanted to sleep in the same room with me for over a year) Gone to AA for all these years but never done the “work”. Guess it just feels like a gift from the Higher Power that I found ya’ll (I’m from Georgia, USA) today. Thanks for sharing all your feelings and experiences that I’ve read today. I feel like I’m whining… guess that’s okay though

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  7. I was doing a clean- up of papers etc and came across a poem I wrote back in 2006 re my relationship with alcohol, so just thought I’d share.
    Here goes….Alcohol is my friend & there are many times that I wish that friendship would finally end. I don’t let it get too close because whenever I do I feel remose. I only connect with it now and then but even now as I write I hope one day that will end. It’s calming and soothing and takes me away from thinking about the hell, but after the effect has worn off, I am back wanting to dive back into that big dark well. Alcohol me and relationships don’t mix, I always say and do things that I then have to go back and fix. I feel very clear headed when I am away from my friend but then head down a road with lots of food at the end. The battle begins to stay on the straight and narrow, it’s a tricky course that I have to be disciplined to follow. Love and warmth is what I seek but food and alcohol are the supplements I use to meet. The trick is not to deviate from the path, the path that leads to fulfillling the wants and needs of my heart. Food and alcohol won’t sustain, acceptance and love of self is the ultimate aim. The end.

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  8. Well day 65, of no alcohol, the last 7 days have been quite tough re not sleeping due to hyperactivity. I don’t drink coffee it’s just what happens when I give up. On the positive, my skin is very clear as are my eyes, my weight is good still holding at 58kg even with the sugar craving I went through as part of giving up. I never had a sweet tooth before but had the odd urge tonight for a honey nougat bar and a ‘boost bar’, for some reason these are the only two sweets on the planet I crave, the guy at the check-out called me ‘candy’ girl. I found that funny as in general I am so, only eat organic unprocessed foods. Anyway life is good and despite the lack of sleep I am very much at peace with myself.

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    1. Well done ‘candy girl’. I’m finding I’m sleeping so much better. I’m hyper during the day but burn it off by running or weights. Keep up the good work. I agree totally with you last statement. Life probably has never been better for me too!

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  9. Hey everyone,

    Well it was my 39th birthday yesterday. I had a little anxiety that it would be back to day 1 after that. A few friends suggested (not unexpectedly), “what’s a day?/surely one or two drinks are allowed?”

    Proud to say that today is day 80 for me. Sober birthdays have been very much in the minority since I was about 16 (I can remember one I think) but it felt great. I woke clear headed. Enjoyed a frosty 7 mile run in the sunshine and spent the day completely coherent playing with my kids and enjoying the company of my family. I’m sure my partner (never really been a drinker) was silently apprehensive as to whether I’d manage but I could tell by the way she was beaming at me at the end of the day what she thought. I’m sure I don’t need to mention that I found it one of my most enjoyable birthdays for a variety of reasons e.g. actually being present and not seriously hungover and in the throws of getting drunk again.

    I feel so much younger than my years just now and I’m loving the energy I have. It still gets ropey at times but if it wasn’t a challenege it wouldn’t be worth doing it and sticking to it.

    Keep up the good work everyone. This is undoubtably (outside having kids) one of the best things I have ever done in my life.

    Keith

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    1. Keith, wow very inspirational well done. It’s never just one, even if it was just one drink that day over the coming days the urge to drink casts its mighty roar and the strength to stop is beyond being able to.

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      1. Thanks very much. Totally agree, it’s never one drink. I am an all or nothing kind of person. Come to far now and fully understand that if I avoid that first drink there will never be a 6th or 7th!

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  10. I’m in my 72nd hour after an almost 4 year “binge.” I was drinking 6-12 16 ounce tall boys a day and sometimes more without a “day off.” Being treated with Depekote and Librium. I feel awesome, have very little withdrawal symptoms and am excited with each day as I feel better, look better and all the positives coming from this. Monday starts AA meetings for me and I am looking forward to sharing my experiences (ups and downs) with everyone. All I can say is hang in there, one day at a time and I think the key sometimes might be: Find something important to you in your life. I also have been walking a lot when I get upset or feel that urge to drink and it goes away and I have a 32 ounce…of Powerade instead =). Much more refreshing I think. Good Luck to Everyone on their journey!

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  11. Thought I posted yesterday, but I must’ve done it wrong. Anyway, it was a rough day–worked 11 very stressful hours around some negative people. Definitely felt like drinking afterwards, but sort of knew it wouldn’t work. Or rather that it WOULD work for about 10 minutes, then things would start to go downhill. If I start drinking out of anger, I drink fast and hard, and pretty soon I will lash out at anyone nearby. I am so glad I didn’t and just “rode it out.” The craving passed pretty quickly once I distracted myself by eating hot peppers and snacks and drinking something pretty (juice&tonic in a wine glass). I was very grumpy and felt sorry for myself yesterday. But that is still better than the nasty person I become in a blackout. And today I feel so energetic and relieved I didn’t drink! I need to keep this in mind next time an urge comes . . . it will eventually go away.

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  12. Bad day today. First, this morning realized I haven’t lost a single pound in 11 days. Feel like I deserve a reward for not drinking! Instead, I had an 11-hour workday full of stress and negativity. Felt like drinking after I finally got home. But I hung on through the craving by eating crackers and hot peppers and drinking juice. I know it’s childish to want a reward–and really my reward is waking up knowing what I did last night and not running out of an important meeting to puke (I have actually done that. Twice.) Just feel grumpy. But I am past the craving now. Grumpy is still better than Evil Blackout Girl.

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    1. Hi Rachel,
      Don’t be too hard on yourself, it takes time to see the benefits. Why don’t you treat yourself to something with the money you’ve saved? Something you might not normally buy…? Don’t forget to take long walks, they’ll help clear your head, but also help get you fitter. I always feel 100% better after a walk, and walking played a big part of my recovery.
      JB

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      1. Thank you, James! I think I posted much the same thing twice by accident–sorry. This weekend I think I will follow your advice and buy myself something. Walking not an option (bitter cold in central Canada), but I love to exercise and have been trying to work in cycling on my lunch hour. When I do, I feel so much more relaxed and happy for the rest of the day. Yay endorphins!

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    2. Rachel, well done for not giving in, I know how strong those times can be. This time round I have really worked hard to keep focussed. Day 60 for me and it is a glorious day in sunny Sydney Australia. I love December & January everyone is so casual and just chillin out. Even writing such a comment I realise how more relaxed I am and at peace with myself. The weight will come off but the body needs to conserve energy to detox, be patient it will happen.

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    3. Well done with saying no. The best way to look at it would be would the stress and negative day get any better with drink? You may forget it for a while but the next day it will be the same and worse because you will have a hangover to deal with!!
      Maybe look at the job is it for you or is the people you work with. With the new clear head in time you may see that you have to look for something else.
      Good luck and let us know how you get on over the next few weeks and keep strong on the reasons you dont drink anymore.

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      1. Thanks, Bruce! I agree about the clear head. I will have to do some re-thinking eventually. For now I still feel like I’m in “survival mode,” if that makes any sense. Just have to focus on not drinking. I liked your comment on it not getting better but actually worse with drinking!

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  13. I am only on Day 9, but I swear something feels different from the 20 times I quit before (I even had 6 years in my twenties, then a month or two here and there, a year, two months, then at some point gave up). The main difference is the same thing I felt when I quit smoking a year and 3 months ago. For months I noticed what it was doing to me and hated myself for continuing. Then came a moment when I knew it had to stop. It was cemented by the funeral of my colleague’s husband at age 50 from lung cancer. With drinking, I also knew I had to stop months before I did and kept thinking about how my life had become totally revolved around alcohol. I’d feel terrible about it, which led to more drinking to assuage the guilt, especially after a blackout. Then after hurting my loved ones and humiliating myself once again in dramatic fashion, I suddenly saw it. My puffy face and bloated body, lack of energy, heart racing and sweats, not remembering the night before, etc. etc.– I didn’t have to live that way. I could choose not to! I always felt like I HAD to drink, but in that moment I knew I didn’t and that it was killing me and ruining my relationships. Just like with smoking, it is a deep decision, knowing I can’t do it anymore. I don’t have to decide each time I’m around alcohol (every day)–I already made the decision. Before, it was always in the back of my mind that I could drink if something bad or really good happened, like a death or a wedding. Now I’m just saying for today I’m not drinking. Period. Did anyone else feel this way? It’s hard to describe.

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    1. Rachel, hi – yes I have experienced the same. This time round for me is very different, I had to get to the six week mark to appreciate the significant changes my body is still going through, it is quite a journey. I have in the past given up for periods of- 1 week or more and did do a 15 month stint in 2003/2004, but did not tune in to the benefits and was indulging in ‘other’ substances. This time round my diet is very ‘clean’ has been for a few years, alcohol was the last vice to go. I have just started getting to sleep around 11 pm ish but still wake up every 2 hrs. I can get back to sleep fairly quickly. My mood is more stable, this has been a big plus. I still have hyperactive periods whereby I feel ‘high’ and very energised. All in all I am very impressed I have got this far- day 58 today. So keep going, it is worth it to experience all the changes, you are an inspiration to many.

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    2. I am on day 11 and like you Rachel, I knew I had to stop drinking. As soon as my kids went to bed the alchohol would come out. I had a permanent hangover for the last 10 years.
      For the first time since I can remember I am actually sleeping through the night instead of waking at 2am and being awake most of the night.
      I was so irritable with the kids and even they have noticed a difference although they did not know about my drink problem.
      I woke up last Monday and went to the sink and poured all alchohol down the sink. This is not the first time I have done this but like you something is different this time. I have never managed 4 days in a row before so I am looking forward to the many benafits described on this page.

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  14. Hi Everyone,

    I pop back to this blog and discussion board frequently but usually never post. The stories and tips people share are so helpful and keep the determination high.

    It’s day 72 for me. 10 whole weeks without a sip. All my friends now know and seem to be more accepting of it than I imagined. I actually think some of them may even be a little jealous that I have taken leap. For me there is nothing more pleasing than uttering the words out loud “I don’t drink”.

    I have more energy, more tolerance and more time to do things that I probably wouldn’t have bothered with. I used my nondrinking money to buy a new car. It’s a great reminder when I wake hangover free and look out the window at it. It’s not a flash expensive car but it’s very significant and I probably couldn’t have stretched to it had I still been drinking.

    10 whole weeks without passing out on the couch with a split glass of wine, numerous cans of beer to recycle or embarrassing myself by getting drunker, quicker than everyone else seemed to.

    It’s my birthday next week and I’m looking forward to spending it completely sober with my partner and kids. I’ll be 39 and it’ll be one of the first drink free birthdays since I’ve been 17. I’ll get to remember it!

    Keep up the good work everyone. Your posts keep me going by showing that other people go through the same and anything is possibly with determination and bravery.

    Keith

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    1. Well done Keith!
      You mentioned jealousy, I noticed this soon after giving up, when I’d tell people I didn’t drink. In my mind it was as if they were looking at you through prison bars, as if you we’re the free one…it feels just like that!
      Happy birthday for next week & keep in touch.
      JB

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  15. Hi, James.
    Thank you so much for starting this discussion forum. I’ve gained a lot of inspiration from it. It’s so important to feel there are others like you—i.e. just as messed up—especially when you first quit. I also love the positive focus of the forum and your blog.
    My question is whether I am posting too much or would be if I posted every day. I notice others check in only once in awhile. To be honest, I also need someplace to express myself and lots of support every day. I have 8 days today.
    Rachel

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    1. Hi Rachel,

      Thanks for your email. Please write as many comments as you want. All the comments so far seem to be adding up to a wonderful resource for anyone looking to give up drinking or find proof that life can exist without drink in their lives. So the more comments, the merrier.

      Congratulations on getting to day 8, keep writing and let us know how you get on with your journey.

      JB

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  16. Day 12 today – I haven’t really thought about drinking much at all over the past few days. Just a few weeks ago it would be all that would occupy my mind come 5pm. I did tire of drinking water, tea or milk of an evening, so I bought some non-alcoholic beer and sparkling apple juice which is very tasty (I’m not a fan of soft-drink or cordial). I also went to dinner at my Mum’s this evening and she bought a bottle of alcohol free cuvee which was also enjoyable – more enjoyable than the alcoholic version. I’m so glad I’ve made the change — I should’ve done it sooner! Rock on @twitter-325645733:disqus ! Enjoy your weekend everyone!

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  17. Well it is day 78 today (pat on the back). My lifestyle has now changed to that i do not drink anymore and love the fact that I never waste any time or energy wanting to stop or in saying “I am never drinking again”.

    I have now been through a stag night, cricket and golf weekend, trip to Newcastle for the footie and night on the toon, wedding reception and curry with the lads. I have also got over just nipping to the pub and staying in (where I would drink a few beers then bed a daily habit I have broken.

    My Tips.

    Once you stop – you don’t drink anymore and don’t be afraid to say it, hiding it can feed the gremlin on the shoulder to have a drink.

    Be prepared that people will question you and try to make you drink. Just keep calm and politely reply I don’t need to drink. Keep with it and don’t hide from anyone or a place where you did drink unless you don’t enjoy it. i.e. you drink when playing darts but enjoy darts then keep doing it if you only do it because you drink then stop.
    Don’t change anything you don’t want to as you are then putting yourself at risk of feeling deprived. Enjoy the fact you don’t drink anymore. Real friends love you because of you and what and who you are if it’s just because of the drink then maybe it’s time to gradually move on.

    Celebrate all the good things you feel and smile and say well done to you and do this often. Take one occasion and one day at a time but also keep reminding yourself why you wanted to stop and enjoy!! Don’t feel you are missing anything just think of what you are gaining.

    Write how you feel and read this blog often as it is a great way of reminding us all how hard it is and how the support can really make a difference and in sharing experiences.

    Good Luck and well done to everyone if you are reading this you have or you are thinking of changing your life.
    You Can Do It!!!!!!!!

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    1. Thanks Bruce. So true not to see it as missing anything but what I am gaining. I adopted the same attitude when I quit smoking 1 year 2 months ago and I will do the same with my addiction to alcohol. Day 10 so far.

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