post

3. Rewarding Yourself – Tidbits to Help you Pull Through

My mother used to tell me man gives the award, God gives the reward. I don’t need another plaque.― Denzel Washington

The reward of not drinking anymore is the reward in itself. The thought that you are going to wake up every morning from now on with a clear conscience, with no shame…This is all the reward I needed.

But, you will save a lot of money when you give up drinking. I did the math and worked out that I’d been spending about £200 per month on drinking at home and out in the bars and clubs. That’s a lot of money when you think about the cost over a year.

I was determined early on to gift myself small presents as treats to spur me on and help keep me motivated to make this change.

Reward your progress

As I made progress and hit early milestones like getting to 2 weeks, then the first month. At each point I’d buy something small but just enough to spur me on. When I hit 100 days I started taking motorbike lessons and after passing my licence I bought a second hand bike. This was something I’d always wanted to do, and I’d done it.

Motivation is key. Without it you’ll give up and return to your old ways. It was important for me to show myself that there was a whole new world out there that I could live in and contribute to, without drink.

It was just in the first few months that I did this. Soon I was fixing my finances and slowly getting other things in my life together.

Be aware that giving up drink or embarking on a journey like this is very empowering. You might find yourself changing in many other, unexpected ways.

Writing a blog also helped

Within a year or two of giving up, I started to write the foundations of this blog. I Tweeted and looked at social media. I posted some posts of my experiences and found that people were interested and started to leave comments. This spurred me on to write more and more. I’ve moved from writing a journal to writing occasional posts and spend time keeping this site up to date and answering comments.

I get so much pleasure from this, being able to give something back. It’s gone full circle. From needing some sort of reward, a titbit, some sort of material possession to some how compensate me not drinking. To wanting to donate time and effort in supporting others who want to do the same, give up drink and live a better life.

Rewards snowball in the end

The rewards keep coming. In re-building your life, you’ll find that you can put things in order, reset priorities with friends or family members.

Another reward has been a general increase in confidence. Before I think I would hide behind drink, I’d let it give me wings or confidence to take on anything. I’ve since found my own way, the real me. I like it better!

Read more now on the next step, Change Yourself. – Step Four.

Quick jump to the other steps:

  1. Overcome Denial
  2. Getting Support
  3. Rewarding Yourself
  4. Change Your Life
  5. Reap The Benefits

Comments

  1. I have to say I am seeing the financial aspect as a definite aspect of one of the reasons I’ve decided to give up too

    • Hi Lisette, Reward yourself with the money you’d have spent on drinking…little things like this help to keep u motivated to keep giving up drinking.
      It worked a treat for me…! :o)

  2. Hi,

    Reading this I realise that my feelings are the same as other people’s. the clarity you get is the biggest thing… Awesome stuff,
    🙂

    • Glad you’re getting such a lot from deciding to give up drink Helen! Keep coming back and letting us know how you get on. James

  3. I don’t drink much, but when I do, I sometimes can’t stop. It’s nuts that alcohol advertising is even allowed and that drinking considered a fun thing to do. Anyway, as long as I can handle the social pressure to drink, I reckon I can stop.

    On that note, I recently read the article below, which I found inspiring:

    http://jamesswanwick.com/the-blog/why-i-quit-drinking

    Good luck, hang in there, be kind to yourself, take your time to adjust, start enjoying your own company, cook yourself some decent food and drink plenty of water. There’s a hell of a lot more to live than the bottle.

Speak Your Mind

*

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.